"Though this may seem counterintuitive, my advice toward manifesting your ideal relationship is to spend plenty of time really getting to know yourself first," Amanda Dobra Hope, holistic life coach and pre-marital counselor, tells Bustle. You can do that by writing in a journal, meditating, or standing in front of a mirror and asking yourself questions about how you feel and how your day is going. Once you really know and love yourself, it's much easier to attract the healthy, positive, and long-lasting relationship that you really want.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back. You’ve come a long way. You’ve been through a lot. You’re still standing. And you may not be happy but you know more. Widsom is gold. You have more than ever which means you have a clearer picture of what you want. Chances are what you put weight on and what you want today is different then say five years ago.
"It takes roughly three times of repeating the positive ideas to negate the negative thoughts. Try a vision board. List five things you want to focus on this month and constantly repeat them daily like a mantra. For example, my vision board says, 'Money flies at me from all directions.' Sometimes, I get a large-paying client, and sometimes, I simply find a quarter on the street. Point being, money is coming to me from everywhere. After you focus on what you want, you need to keep in that mindset. If you allow any negative thoughts to creep in, you will reverse or negate all the work you just did," Estes recommends.
Arielle: In addition to healing your heart from past relationships, you need to create a clear intention. The analogy I like to use it this: When you walk into your favorite coffee hangout what is the first thing you do? Place your order. You confidently tell the barista, “I will have a tall, half-caff, low-fat mocha latte, with a splash of non-sugar vanilla syrup to go.” The barista smiles, writes your order on the side of a cup and takes your money. Within minutes you are walking out the door with the precise, delicious cup of coffee that you ordered. Ordering up a soul mate from the Universe works in a similar way. It’s not always as instantaneous but it can be just as precise. But to have the Universe to deliver your perfect soul mate, you must first clearly place your order. This isn’t quite as easy as it sounds. You must first search your heart for what you really, really desire. By now you know what you don’t want but you need to ask for what you do want. In the Soulmate Kit we explain how to place your order by creating a detailed list and we then provide a variety of rituals to do to release your list to the Universe.
8) No Support: Since you will always attract what you think about, you need to avoid any type of support groups for people with mental or physical illnesses or for people with similar experiences. Research shows that support groups such as alcoholics anonymous, weight watchers, or breast cancer support are beneficial. The LOA incorrectly predicts that you will make your problems worse.
10) Blame Yourself: As the LOA is supposed to be a perfect, universal law, positivity should ALWAYS attract more positivity. The corollary of this is that you alone are completely responsible for any goal that was not successfully achieved, no matter how unrealistic the goal. This assumes that you not only control your thoughts and actions, but also those of everyone around you…and nature. The fact is, that you don’t. Sorry to break that to you.
Please be advised in the first place, that it is widely known that we do not manifest from the brain, from the mind alone. Since the brain naturally has a positive and a negative side and that also is nature of thoughts, if our manifestation is successful (and I wish for everyone that it will be) that we are automatically attracting the equal negative side with it.
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