Arielle Ford is a nationally recognized speaker, publicist, marketing expert, producer, and author of several bestselling books, including The Soulmate Secret. She is now on a mission to make sure that everyone who desires to spend their life with a soul mate knows that it’s not only possible to find that person but highly probable if you commit a little time, energy, intention, and attention to your love life.
Going to work: I wrote down and got super clear on the characteristics of my ideal partner. Then I asked myself, could I offer these characteristics to a partner today? In doing so, I realized that I don’t have unconditional love for myself, so how can I truly offer that to someone else? For the next 30 days I’m going to journal and bring awareness to my negative self talk and limiting beliefs that tell me “I’m not good enough” and start working on those. I have to take care of me before the Universe can take care of me.
Absolute detachment. This step is one where most people stumble. We like to control things in our life because we’re afraid that if we wouldn’t control them then they would not happen. And this is exactly the reason why we need to let them go. If we’re attached to what we want and we obsess about having it NOW then we’re simultaneously saying that we don’t believe that we can have it. Which undermines principle number 4 — creating an unflappable belief. By letting go of when and how, you show that you believe that it is already yours. Because only he who is certain of the outcome can afford to wait.