"It takes roughly three times of repeating the positive ideas to negate the negative thoughts. Try a vision board. List five things you want to focus on this month and constantly repeat them daily like a mantra. For example, my vision board says, 'Money flies at me from all directions.' Sometimes, I get a large-paying client, and sometimes, I simply find a quarter on the street. Point being, money is coming to me from everywhere. After you focus on what you want, you need to keep in that mindset. If you allow any negative thoughts to creep in, you will reverse or negate all the work you just did," Estes recommends.
Freud might suggest that you are using a psychological strategy known as a projection to disguise your true feelings about the new co-worker. This defense mechanism involves projecting your feelings onto someone else. The reality is that you deeply dislike the new co-worker, but you realize that these feelings are not shared by your officemates and would be deemed socially unacceptable.
You’re also competing with other people’s intentions – both good and bad. So, be aware that if your desire is in direct conflict with someone else’s stronger desire, the universe will respond accordingly. The Law of Attraction does not give you full and total control of your life, it simply states that like will attract like. You can use this to your advantage by being intentional with your desires, but this isn’t magic.
Now it’s important to note that I wasn’t exactly financially prosperous at the time. I’d been going through some challenges and “learning experiences” regarding money. And through it all, I learned something really important: Money is simply energy. It comes, it goes, it ebbs, it flows. So like a river that flows, I decided to let go, surrender, and trust that the Universe was going to take care of me. And miracles happened. Everything I needed began to show up just at the right time. I was manifesting things, people, and experiences into my life.
Additionally, your emotions about your desires either attract them into your physical reality or prevent them from showing up. If you want a new car, for example, but you constantly feel angry, jealous and depressed every time you see someone else driving your dream car, you decrease your chances of manifesting a car. If, however, when you see someone driving that car you feel joyful at the thought of one parked in your garage, you begin manifesting that new car. So, work on feeling good and happy about what you want even before you have it. This means learning to act and feel “as if” you already manifested your heart’s desire.
The first article about this was in Psychology Today - “Throw Away Your Vision Board.” After a quarter million hits and much hate mail, I wanted to make sure that I had a thorough LOA understanding so I read every book from the originators of the law in the late 1800s and became a certified “Advanced Practitioner of the Law of Attraction” by one of the authors of "The Secret." I then wrote “Throw Away Your Vision Board 2.” This time the feedback was a little more positive. I recently published the book, Throw Away Your Vision Board: The Truth About the Law of Attraction. This article will summarize 14 reasons why there is no LOA.
What To Do When The Law Of Attraction Doesn't Work
When you attempt to manifest from a place of selfishness or potential harm to anyone else, you invoke the ego. The ego is always about winning, overpowering, being better than others, accumulating for the sake of feeling superior, achieving adulation or recognition, improving your status, and so on. So the secret is to feel yourself as already being and having what your desire, and to keep the entirety of it all wrapped up in a spirit of love. Always weigh your choices on the scales of love.