It's curious that people who believe in a LOA are critical of those who don't and believe them to be close-minded. I have presented a lot of new data such as the erroneous science and the data showing that acting as though you had already accomplished your goals was detrimental to you doing so. Yet, LOA proponents do not look at this with an open mind and reconsider their belief system. In this way LOA is akin to a faith-based religion, except that religious beliefs can't be disproven.
Avoid pinning the idea to a specific person, a specific house, a specific job, etc. If you are looking to manifest a relationship, define the relationship not the person you think you would like to be in the relationship with. If you are looking for a new home define the home walk through it room by room in your mind, define the characteristics of the neighborhood or climate. Let the Universe identify who the person is or what place exactly meets the characteristics you have identified. Once you have completed your definition of your dream, you have placed your order with the Universe. Surrender to the process, trust in the universal wisdom. Certainly define your dream very specifically down to the details and let go, do not try to control the: who what where when and how your dream will materialize. Your job is to define the dream and fuel it, which brings us to step 2.
When you put aside your doubts, you can begin to imagine in both mind and body what it will feel like to have your Wishes Fulfilled. Think about what you plan to manifest — then use your imagination to feel what that feels like in your body. Does it feel natural to you? Does it really feel like this is the “you” that you are deciding to be? By staying only with what your senses tell you is your reality, you place a barrier to letting your imagination create all that you wish for. Your imagination is unlimited.
Look. Yes, you should have a vision of what you want your life to look like. I have a very clear vision. But it’s not hanging over my head. It’s in my pocket. Actually, it’s in my phone. And it changes as I change. They are a list of wants and goals but not needs. They do not define me or my worth. My vision acts as a compass. Do I want these things? Fuck yes I want these things. Will I not allow myself to be happy if I don’t obtain them? Nope. Been there, done that. Never again.